Rejection is a Skill (and Here’s How to Build It)


Hello Reader,

Here’s something you might not hear often: Rejection is a skill.

In this week’s episode of A Productive Conversation, I sit down with Alice Draper—founder of Hustling Writers and host of My Rejection Story—to unpack how building rejection resilience can quietly fuel your productivity, creativity, and clarity.

One idea that really stuck with me?

“Imposter syndrome is a form of self-rejection. And that’s the most insidious kind.”

If you’ve ever talked yourself out of hitting publish, sending a pitch, or asking for an opportunity because you felt like you weren’t “ready,” this conversation is a must-listen.

We get tactical, too—Alice shares:

  • How to build a rejection “muscle” (and why you might want to aim for 100 rejections a year)
  • How community can act as a buffer against the fear of being seen
  • Why the best way to get more yeses... is to actually welcome the no’s

You can listen to the full episode here

Even if you don’t hit play, take this with you: The fear doesn’t vanish. But the more you move through it, the less control it has over you.

Talk soon,
Mike

P.S. A curated selection of podcast episodes of A Productive Conversation are available in short-form audio over on Blinkist. You can check it out here. (And just a heads up: not every episode is featured—Blinkist picks select ones to spotlight.)

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